In the stillness of the morning, I dozed in and out, swaddled in the cozy comforter and flannel sheets. The beautiful but harsh sunlight peeked through the window, blinding my blue eyes.
In the past, God has woken me up with words of wisdom. It’s rare, but it does happen.
Sometimes it’s a refreshing Bible verse, but most of the time, it’s not as whimsical. It’s usually uncomfortable.
In some shape or form, He gently points out something I’m not doing to the best of my ability. I like to think He challenges me in the morning because I’m too sleepy to argue.
This morning was no different, except it was about marriage. The best advice I’ve ever received…
Don’t talk about everything with your significant other.
Don’t ask how you can help them.
Don’t speak positively about them.
Don’t put God first.
Because if you do these things, others will be jealous and upset that your relationship is succeeding and theirs is not.
I once heard that marriage is hard because LIFE is hard.
It’s easy to fall into the pattern of not discussing the hard things (i.e. temptations and conflicts) because they seem trivial or too awkward.
Same with believing the lie that they don’t need help with their “chores” or responsibilities. It’s as easy as thinking you’ve done more to deserve rest than they have.
It’s also hard not to complain about that one little thing they do differently than you. Although I try not to fall into bitterness, there are times my heart or tongue betrays my trust.
But losing sight of God and His desire for marriage is the biggest pitfall. Everybody has fallen into this trap at some point or another.
Following God’s plan for marriage isn’t about competition or showing others up, but it most certainly will upset people to see a healthy relationship.
No doubt, you will receive comments that encourage you to be bitter or apathetic.
Even if some of these comments are coming from a place of love, they can still be Biblically incorrect.
When it comes to marriage, Satan is constantly trying to destroy what God has put together. The enemy is here to kill, steal, and destroy.
The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?”
And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Matthew 19:3-6 NKJV
Even if you’re just now starting to think about dating, it’s important to realize the effort marriage takes.
I love being married! God doesn’t call everyone to marriage, but when He does, how beautiful it is even when there is breaking!
To me, in all its beauty, marriage is about battling wickedness together & growing a lifelong friendship, for better or worse until death do us part.
I don’t want to mess this up… And God simply reminded me today to stay alert.
Satan is waiting for a chance to break down the front door. Not just for the married, but for all of us, so swords up, Reader!
Sunshine in the Haze 
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